Age is nothing but a number, so the popular old saying goes. And when it comes to cougar dating this can be very true.
It is also true that there are plenty of very exciting and interesting older women out there. And most have the kind of sexual appetite that many men crave for because they do not find it in younger women.
That is why plenty of younger men have been totally hooked to cougars and have ended up never wanting to consider anything else as far as dating goes. And fortunately for them, it has even gotten better because this is no longer a social taboo frowned on by society. Thanks in part to the widely publicized celebrity matches of older women with younger men, it now seems a much more acceptable scenario to most.
However before you rush in it is important to understand a few things about dating older women.
You will need to act mature
Remember that you will need to act like a man. Although in going for younger men women are looking for energy, stamina in bed and vibrancy, they do not envisage this package coming in an immature boy. In fact in many ways this is their nightmare and many of them will tend to get impatient with you rather quickly.
That means that if you are not the mature type you will need to make the effort to avoid that part of your personality that sinks into it, at least when you are with her.
Do not get serious about a relationship before she does
It is best to avoid talking about your feelings and emotions for her, more so initially as you start to date. A vast majority of older women are in such a relationship to enjoy what they can get without hurrying things along too fast. Remember that she comes into the relationship with a lot more experience than you. Focus on enjoying your moments together and her company and let the longer term issues comfortably work themselves out with time.
Your sexual appetite and stamina are important
Chances are that you have had problems with younger women and sex. Everybody knows that women tend to reach their sexual peak much later than men and so dating a cougar could be the perfect answer to your earlier problems in the bedroom. However be also prepared for surprises, like her wanting to take charge and so if you are sensitive about this, you will need to prepare yourself for the adjustments.
Understand that women who are over 30 crave sex much more and therefore it will be a good idea for you to play up your sexual stamina and meet what could easily end up being a challenge. It is said that women this age want and crave sex more than a teenage boy. And so you can begin to appreciate what you may be up against.
Intelligent conversation will make her like you more
The last thing most older women want is a mere sex machine or toy with no brains, even if they say so to their friends sometimes. If this is all you are then you can be sure that she will get bored with you rather quickly. Going out of your way to have intelligent conversation will be a great help to the relationship. Just like you would with a younger date, find out what interests her and do some research so that she gets to really enjoy your conversations.
And don’t just talk about her. Also remember that your own goals, ambition and drive are things that can also turn her on.
Older women treasure honesty even more
All women treasure honesty but older women even more. And remember that she will be much harder to fool because experience is on her side and chances are that she will have built a gut feeling over the years that will be very difficult to fool. Bottom line she will be able to see through your lies and half truths much faster than a younger less experienced woman. And so if you are the type that has no qualms about telling small lies, remember that this seemingly small issue could easily ruin your relationship before it even starts.
That means also being totally honest with your compliments and praise and everything that you say. Do not try to just flatter. Instead focus on what you genuinely like and enjoy in the relationship and do not overboard with exaggerated praise.
Don’t talk about the age difference, instead focus on doing things that make her feel like a young girl. Remember that she is well aware of your age difference, more than you will ever appreciate.
Beware of the guilt in her
Even if she likes you, most older women will tend to feel some kind of guilt about your age difference. Be sensitive to this by patiently pursuing her and charming her. Never let impatience get the better of you if this ends up happening in your relationship with an older woman. This is because in most cases she will eventually feel comfortable enough to really open up to you and go ahead with the relationship.
Never let her catch you looking at younger women
Older women will tend to be paranoid and extremely sensitive about you admiring younger women. Thios is because they will tend to constantly think about you leaving them for a younger woman. It is therefore very important that she never catches you looking at a younger woman.
Her Health and what it means
If she is between the age of 45 and 55 chances are high that she will be approaching menopause. This is the time of mood swings and her emotions are generally impacted dramatically. This can also bring anxiety and memory loss and so you will need to be prepared to deal with all this. But as they say, love conquers all.
Is she looking for a fling?
Many cougars are only looking for a fling rather than a long term relationship. It is therefore a good idea to decide what you really want before it gets to the serious phase. Do not be so old fashioned as to make assumptions.